PROTECTOR / GUARDIAN
After taking the Myers Briggs Personality Test, I find the results to be most accurate. I have read through several descriptions of the ISFJ and have included the most applicable here.
As an ISFJ, my primary mode of living is focused internally, where I take things in via my five senses in a literal, concrete fashion. My secondary mode is external, where I deal with things according to how I feel about them, or how it fits into my personal value system. ISFJs live in a world that is concrete and kind. I am truly warm and kind-hearted, and want to believe the best of people. I value harmony and cooperation, and am very sensitive to other people's feelings. I tend to bring out the best in others by my firm desire to believe the best. ISFJs are characterized above all by the desire to serve others, the "need to be needed." ISFJs have a rich inner world that is not usually obvious to observers. I constantly take in information about people and situations that is personally important to them, and store it away. Sometimes, I remember a particular facial expression or conversation in precise detail years after the event occurred because it made such an impression on me.
ISFJs have a very clear idea of the way things should be, which I strive to attain. I value security and kindness, and respect traditions and laws. I tend to believe that existing systems are there because they work. Therefore, I'm not likely to buy into doing things in a new way, unless I'm shown in a concrete way why it's better than the established method. The ISFJ learns a task best by being shown its practical application. Once the task is learned, and its practical importance is understood, the ISFJ will faithfully and tirelessly carry through the task to completion. I am extremely dependable. ISFJs are often unappreciated, at work, home, and play. Ironically, because I prove over and over that I can be relied on for my loyalty and high-quality work, I found that those in the workforce used to take me for granted--even take advantage of me. Admittedly, the problem is sometimes aggravated by me because I was notoriously bad at delegating ("If I want it done right, I did it myself"). And although I'm hurt by being treated like a doormat, I am often unwilling to toot my own horn about my accomplishments because I feel that although I deserve more credit than I'm getting, it's somehow wrong to want any sort of reward for doing work (which is supposed to be a virtue in itself).
In the workplace, ISFJs are methodical and accurate workers, often with very good memories and unexpected analytic abilities; I am good with people in small-group or one-on-one situations because of my patient and genuinely sympathetic approach to dealing with others. ISFJs make pleasant and reliable co-workers and exemplary employees, but tend to be harried and uncomfortable in supervisory roles. I enjoyed my job as manager because I could make the decisions and do it my way, but I hated supervising employees, especially when any sort of confrontation was needed.
More so than other types, ISFJs are extremely aware of their own internal feelings, as well as other people's feelings. I do not usually express my own feelings, keeping things inside. If I have negative feelings, I may let them build up inside where they turn into firm judgments against individuals which are difficult to unseed, once set. As a ISFJ, I am not likely to express my feelings, I am also not likely to let on that I know how others are feeling. However, I will speak up when I feel another individual really needs help. The ISFJ feels a strong sense of responsibility and duty. I take my responsibilities very seriously, and can be counted on to follow through. For this reason, people naturally tend to rely on me. I tend to have a difficult time saying "no" when asked to do something, and may become over-burdened. In such cases, I will not usually express my difficulties to others, because I intensely dislike conflict, and because I tend to place other people's needs over my own. I have learned I need to identify, value, and express my own needs, if I wish to avoid becoming over-worked and taken for granted. ISFJs need positive feedback from others. In the absence of positive feedback, or in the face of criticism, I get discouraged, and may even become depressed. I can get strong feelings of inadequacy, and become convinced that "everything is all wrong", or "I can't do anything right" when I get like this. The ISFJ is warm, generous, and dependable. I have many special gifts to offer, in my sensitivity to others, and my strong ability to keep things running smoothly. Now that I have reached maturity, I have learned to not be overly critical of myself, and to give me some of the warmth and love which I freely dispense to others.
While my work ethic is high on the priority list, my family is the center of my life. ISFJs have few close friends. I am extremely loyal to these, and ready to provide emotional and practical support at a moment's notice. (However, I hate confrontation; if you get into a fight, don't expect me to jump in after you. You can count on me, however, to run and get the cops. The older the friendship is, the more I value it.